That zundel is a hateful bastard.
Anyone who quotes wartime "red cross" reports to validate their position needs to be in jail.
As you know, the RED CROSS is a SWISS organization and you know the SWISS were "neutral", but in this case"neutral" means they were Hitlers Bankers.
Zundel must be addressed because there is another generation that could be tricked by his lies. It is like the "holocaust debates" that took place in Iran recently.
These things must be logically addressed and not simply just ignored.
People are not just numbers, if you can imagine only 1 murdered man who dies with a broken heart, you will need hours or days to consider his case. But when you imagine 100 of the same, then it becomes almost impossible to correctly empathize with the victims because there isn't time.
Now imagine 1000 of the same, now these "lives" are simply numbers without stories or faces.
The attack against Jews in Germany and Eastern Europe was not the only evil machination of Nazi era Fasism. To deny all of the evil of the Third Reich is to allow for it to not be remembered and thus allow for its replication by later regeimes.
Zundel is obviously wrong to attempt to lessen the memory of those who suffered. But his offense to Germany and Austria and America is not that he is attacking the memory of Jews.
His offense to modern Germany is that he accidently leads a logical reader to understand that all of the destruction of Europe was not simply about the murder of Jews.
A clever reader will ultimately understand that the true nature of fasicm is not persecution of the Jews, but it is about theft and control of assets. It is about forgery and deception and lies.
Anotherwards, the Jewish victims of the Nazis were a giant population group. Their numbers are in the millions. 2,4,6,7,8,10 million. It is impossible to exactly calculate their numbers, and an exact calculation is not important to understand the gravity of the crime.
Zundel tritely recognizes the impossibility of an EXACT or PRECISE body count of Jewish victims of WW2 and he cleverly attempts to invalidate the severity of their suffering by implying that because the "numbers don't precisely match up" that there was no giant episode of muder and suffering called the Holocaust.
Zundel has hatefully collected minutial data about just EXACTLY AND PRECISELY how many jews were murdered, and where and how.
But that isn't why he is in trouble with Germany. Nobody in Germany or America or perhaps Canada wants to discuss the fact that entire industries and financial empires exist today because of WW2 era fasism.
Obviously this facism took a giant toll on Europes jews. That is where Zundel's hateful propaganda makes him famous but his actual tort is the fact that people will now discuss other aspects of German fasism and they will be led by their own intellects to indict those responsible.
Ultimately a clever reader has to imagine that the destruction of Europe was not just about Jews. And then this same reader must imagine the industries and institutions that allowed for the destruction of europe and the jews.
Then the reader must be led to imagine what industries and leaders and empires of modern Germany and America and Europe exist today in spite of and as a result of their wartime efforts.
That is what Germany is upset over, Germany is upset over the hundreds and thousands of Wallbergs and such that survived their crimes and flourished to power. They are upset by BMW and Mercedes and Volkswagon being so deeply embroiled in Nazi germany.
America is obviously upset by our power brokers that got rich from the Nazis, such as IBM who came up with the "inventory control system" that would ultimately be the tattoos on the concentration victims forearms. The Bush family and many other prominent families that have their fortunes stinking of ww2 blood. We are ashamed of all the Belarusian Nazis we brought over knowing their histories.
Ernst Zundel is just a hateful , heartless propaganda monger and conman. He is obviously supported by Neo-Nazi money. I say Neo Nazi money because he is a stone in the shoe of real Nazi's with real Nazi money. He just accidently causes the world to continue to imagine Nazi issues to include financial and industrial asset issues. The only people dumb enough to support him would be skinheads, or Neo/New Nazis.
Zundels lies should be openly discussed and logically discredited. This will not be difficult. And after his lies are discredited, the global public should begin discussions about the true nature of Nazi Fasicsm.
The world should recognize that the Jews of Europe were not hurt by Nazi Fasism itself, they were killed by PRECURSOR elements engeneered into Germany society by the Nazis. These precursor elements were the brutalization of German children in Hitler Youth camps. These precursor elements were the propaganda that de-humanized Jews and Slavs prior to their attack by the Nazi's.
Hate itself isn't deadly. Bigotry is simply a distasteful trait. EFFECTIVE PRECURSOR elements to a genocide must be woven into a society before it is capeable of mass murder or genocide.
It is these precursor elements that must be discussed and identified by a civilized modern world to prevent them from being replicated onto an unsuspecting society for the purpose of enabling another Holocaust or Genocide from taking place.
Michael Miller
Monday, February 26, 2007
Saturday, February 24, 2007
2 RUSSIAN WOMEN MURDERED IN PATTAYA, THAILAND
I recently concluded four essays about my observations while on vacation to Thailand.
One of the Thai cities I visited was Pattaya. This city is interesting because it is the flagship city for Russian tourists coming to Thailand.
CIS citizens , primarily Russians like to come to Thailand because they can arrive visa free from their home countries. Thai Airways offers reasonably priced flights from Moscow to Bangkok. The flight time is about 12 hours.
Pattaya is primarily geared towards English speaking tourists, however there are about 10-15% of the business that cater to Russian tourists.
There is even a "Russian District" at the end of Walking Street. Walking Street is long and commercialized nightclub and restaurant and souveneer district that borders the beach.
The Russians that are in Pattaya are all in their mid 20's to mid 40's.
Russian women do not come to Thailand on vacation without their husbands or boyfriends.
There is a very small population of Eastern European prostitutes living in Pattaya.
It is extremely unlikely that 2 Russian women would be murdered on a Thai beach by Thai citizens.
It is unlikely that these 2 Russian women were victims of simultaneous domestic violence ending in their joint deaths on the beach.
It is more likely that these two women were killed because they were either trying to flea their lives as prostitutes, or perhaps they were somehow stealing money from their employers/captors.
The Russian tourists this writer observed did not appear very sociable or happy, or in love, but they did not look to be on the verge of murder either.
Multiple crime families from multiple ethnic backrounds have financial interests in Pattaya businesses.
It is not unreasonable to assume that these two Russian women were murdered because of some association with organized crime in the Pattaya area.
It is this writers hope that the Russian FSB will look into the health and welfare of its citizens living abroad and will work with the Thai authorities to bring some measure of appropriate closure to this sad case in Pattaya.
Michael Miller
Indianapolis,
2007
One of the Thai cities I visited was Pattaya. This city is interesting because it is the flagship city for Russian tourists coming to Thailand.
CIS citizens , primarily Russians like to come to Thailand because they can arrive visa free from their home countries. Thai Airways offers reasonably priced flights from Moscow to Bangkok. The flight time is about 12 hours.
Pattaya is primarily geared towards English speaking tourists, however there are about 10-15% of the business that cater to Russian tourists.
There is even a "Russian District" at the end of Walking Street. Walking Street is long and commercialized nightclub and restaurant and souveneer district that borders the beach.
The Russians that are in Pattaya are all in their mid 20's to mid 40's.
Russian women do not come to Thailand on vacation without their husbands or boyfriends.
There is a very small population of Eastern European prostitutes living in Pattaya.
It is extremely unlikely that 2 Russian women would be murdered on a Thai beach by Thai citizens.
It is unlikely that these 2 Russian women were victims of simultaneous domestic violence ending in their joint deaths on the beach.
It is more likely that these two women were killed because they were either trying to flea their lives as prostitutes, or perhaps they were somehow stealing money from their employers/captors.
The Russian tourists this writer observed did not appear very sociable or happy, or in love, but they did not look to be on the verge of murder either.
Multiple crime families from multiple ethnic backrounds have financial interests in Pattaya businesses.
It is not unreasonable to assume that these two Russian women were murdered because of some association with organized crime in the Pattaya area.
It is this writers hope that the Russian FSB will look into the health and welfare of its citizens living abroad and will work with the Thai authorities to bring some measure of appropriate closure to this sad case in Pattaya.
Michael Miller
Indianapolis,
2007
Monday, February 5, 2007
500 VOICES FOR BELARUS-- A SELF REVIEW
500 VOICES FOR BELARUS is a documentary film I wrote, directed, and produced. Its running time is 1 hour and 42 minutes. It was shot in HDV PAL format.
500 VOICES was a project that I wrote for the purpose of creating discussion about the former future presidential election in the Republic of Belarus.
It is obvious that my favorite canidate was and is Alexander Lukashenka.
It is also obvious that if I made a documentary film whose purpose was creating discussion about the Belarusian election, I desired for this discussion to favor Alexander Lukashenka.
I decided for the film to be shot in May of 2006 in time for the scheduled Belarusian elections, but when the election time was moved forward, I had to choose between shooting my film on no money, with no crew, or allowing my completed script to be wasted and never filmed.
I decided to go ahead and shoot this film on nickels and dimes. I shot this film with no money, no crew, and no film experience on my part save actually being a movie buff and having been to literally hundreds and hundreds of movies.
This film had the benefit of a very strong screenplay/script and every portion of what is said in my film is highly defendable and arguable.
This film did not have the benefit of money, or talent, or even good luck.
I will say to my credit that I did finish this difficult project and I ultimately did produce a "turnkey" finished product that was complete with movie posters, CD covers and the whole nine yards.
It was the nature of this project that it would be highly unlikely the people of Belarus would actually derive any benefit from it, and it was also understood by me when I was making it that proably no one would ever see it.
I made this movie because I couldn't stand to waste the script, and because I couldn't just sit on my hands while the people of Belarus were under attack from outside western forces, namely the U.S. government.
This film is absolutely RIFE with flaws and failures. For instance in the second scene I ACTUALLY MISPRONOUNCED Alexander Lukashenkas name 8 times!!! I didn't realize this until my editor was putting it all together for me, and at that point, there was no way to change anything. There was just no more time or money.
There were multiple camera wobbles, multiple sound failures. The list of cinamatographic failures goes on and on. There is literally one stupid classic mistake after another in this documentary!
There were essentially no paid for sets, no paid costumes, no paid crew except for my editor at M3M films who saved the project in the very last days with his film expertise.
I did the best I could. I had no experience, no knowledge, no anything but a sturdy script and a sense of urgency and enthusiasm to complete this project.
It was the darkest of times in my mind, there were LITERALLY 10,734,134 Belarusians with their lives and their futures hanging on the outcome of this presidential election. This election was the showdown between good and evil. This election was an example of the west attempting to stomp to death the final and last heartbeats of Soviet Socialism that existed in Europe.
Maybe Soviet Socialism wasn't the greatest form of government in the world, but watching it stomped to death by the CIA and the STATE DEPARTMENT wasn't something I was prepared to witness without DOING SOMETHING!
What can a little guy in America do if our government is off on some crazy witch hunt or war crime? Absolutly Nothing! Who can you call? Who can you complain to?
What can any little guy JOE CITIZEN do when he sees his country preparing to MUGG yet ANOTHER VICTIM?
The only thing I could think of was to write and shoot 500 VOICES. I just couldn't sit on my hands in good conscience and watch another witch burning and another village zippo raided without at least attempting to interveen somehow.
So, I did my best, I wrote a good script, and then shot a really crappy documentary film which did absolutely nothing to affect the Belarusian election WHATSOEVER!
Would I do it all over again? I think so, because I feel that my movie while it was a total and dismal failure, may teach future film makers some important lessons about what not to do. It may also inspire more talented and better funded filmmakers in the future to get into the action and at least try to make a difference in the world.
I am happy with the AMERICAUST CHRISTMAS portion of 500 Voices, and I am happy with the creative way my editor from M3M FILMS saved the third to last scene.
The third to last scene was sort of a roundtable interview between myself and 2 of the fellows that had joined me to make this film. The only problem was that the microphones went fuzzy and all of our sound was recorded as having some kind of weird "hiss" in the backround. This sound problem was unfixable without re-shooting the scene. We were out of time and money, and the scene was candidly shot without scripts. It could never be duplicated.
It was my idea to then "antique" the scene into chalky black and white and insert some ghostly scenes of historic Belarus into the scene in microsecond intervals. This was accented by gunfire added to the backround noise. This scene deserved an A+
as an example of how to save an absolutely ruined scene. It really bound the whole film together at the end and it looked as if it was suppossed to have been there all the time.
Anyway, my documentary film 500 VOICES FOR BELARUS is so full of flaws and failures that I proably don't know about all of them, and you don't have time to read about them.
500 VOICES was never intended to be played on European Prime Time Television, but it was intended to foster some discussion about certain subjects that nobody really seemed to want to talk about at the US government during and past the time of the Belarusian Presidential election.
Ultimately I was never able to secure any type of distribution for this film even though I approched numerous sources. I wasn't really surprised, but I at least wanted to give the film the benefit of multiple exposures to potential venues for its release.
I am in the process of copyrighting it and as soon as that is finished, I will offer it for sale at cost over this blog to anyone who would like to view it.
I would encourage anyone with any ideas to make a documentary film about their passions to go for it and take the risk. Ultimately my personal bottom line was affected less than 10K USD by the making of this film. But my personal self respect for finishing a difficult project went way up and I am satisfied with what I have done.
I am right now working with some friends on the production of another film, although this one will not be political in any way.
I am interested in making a drama or a comedy this time. Lets face it, there is nothing funny or entertaining about a documentary on the Belarusian Election and Alexander Lukashenka made by yours truly. 500 VOICES is DEFINETLY NOT a first date movie. If you play this movie on a first date you are GUARANTEED to get "no love". LOL
So, there are other works in the fire, and maybe my next picture will have fewer failures than the first, and maybe, just maybe it will be ENTERTAINING instead of intensely informative.
Michael Miller
Indianapolis
February, 2007
500 VOICES was a project that I wrote for the purpose of creating discussion about the former future presidential election in the Republic of Belarus.
It is obvious that my favorite canidate was and is Alexander Lukashenka.
It is also obvious that if I made a documentary film whose purpose was creating discussion about the Belarusian election, I desired for this discussion to favor Alexander Lukashenka.
I decided for the film to be shot in May of 2006 in time for the scheduled Belarusian elections, but when the election time was moved forward, I had to choose between shooting my film on no money, with no crew, or allowing my completed script to be wasted and never filmed.
I decided to go ahead and shoot this film on nickels and dimes. I shot this film with no money, no crew, and no film experience on my part save actually being a movie buff and having been to literally hundreds and hundreds of movies.
This film had the benefit of a very strong screenplay/script and every portion of what is said in my film is highly defendable and arguable.
This film did not have the benefit of money, or talent, or even good luck.
I will say to my credit that I did finish this difficult project and I ultimately did produce a "turnkey" finished product that was complete with movie posters, CD covers and the whole nine yards.
It was the nature of this project that it would be highly unlikely the people of Belarus would actually derive any benefit from it, and it was also understood by me when I was making it that proably no one would ever see it.
I made this movie because I couldn't stand to waste the script, and because I couldn't just sit on my hands while the people of Belarus were under attack from outside western forces, namely the U.S. government.
This film is absolutely RIFE with flaws and failures. For instance in the second scene I ACTUALLY MISPRONOUNCED Alexander Lukashenkas name 8 times!!! I didn't realize this until my editor was putting it all together for me, and at that point, there was no way to change anything. There was just no more time or money.
There were multiple camera wobbles, multiple sound failures. The list of cinamatographic failures goes on and on. There is literally one stupid classic mistake after another in this documentary!
There were essentially no paid for sets, no paid costumes, no paid crew except for my editor at M3M films who saved the project in the very last days with his film expertise.
I did the best I could. I had no experience, no knowledge, no anything but a sturdy script and a sense of urgency and enthusiasm to complete this project.
It was the darkest of times in my mind, there were LITERALLY 10,734,134 Belarusians with their lives and their futures hanging on the outcome of this presidential election. This election was the showdown between good and evil. This election was an example of the west attempting to stomp to death the final and last heartbeats of Soviet Socialism that existed in Europe.
Maybe Soviet Socialism wasn't the greatest form of government in the world, but watching it stomped to death by the CIA and the STATE DEPARTMENT wasn't something I was prepared to witness without DOING SOMETHING!
What can a little guy in America do if our government is off on some crazy witch hunt or war crime? Absolutly Nothing! Who can you call? Who can you complain to?
What can any little guy JOE CITIZEN do when he sees his country preparing to MUGG yet ANOTHER VICTIM?
The only thing I could think of was to write and shoot 500 VOICES. I just couldn't sit on my hands in good conscience and watch another witch burning and another village zippo raided without at least attempting to interveen somehow.
So, I did my best, I wrote a good script, and then shot a really crappy documentary film which did absolutely nothing to affect the Belarusian election WHATSOEVER!
Would I do it all over again? I think so, because I feel that my movie while it was a total and dismal failure, may teach future film makers some important lessons about what not to do. It may also inspire more talented and better funded filmmakers in the future to get into the action and at least try to make a difference in the world.
I am happy with the AMERICAUST CHRISTMAS portion of 500 Voices, and I am happy with the creative way my editor from M3M FILMS saved the third to last scene.
The third to last scene was sort of a roundtable interview between myself and 2 of the fellows that had joined me to make this film. The only problem was that the microphones went fuzzy and all of our sound was recorded as having some kind of weird "hiss" in the backround. This sound problem was unfixable without re-shooting the scene. We were out of time and money, and the scene was candidly shot without scripts. It could never be duplicated.
It was my idea to then "antique" the scene into chalky black and white and insert some ghostly scenes of historic Belarus into the scene in microsecond intervals. This was accented by gunfire added to the backround noise. This scene deserved an A+
as an example of how to save an absolutely ruined scene. It really bound the whole film together at the end and it looked as if it was suppossed to have been there all the time.
Anyway, my documentary film 500 VOICES FOR BELARUS is so full of flaws and failures that I proably don't know about all of them, and you don't have time to read about them.
500 VOICES was never intended to be played on European Prime Time Television, but it was intended to foster some discussion about certain subjects that nobody really seemed to want to talk about at the US government during and past the time of the Belarusian Presidential election.
Ultimately I was never able to secure any type of distribution for this film even though I approched numerous sources. I wasn't really surprised, but I at least wanted to give the film the benefit of multiple exposures to potential venues for its release.
I am in the process of copyrighting it and as soon as that is finished, I will offer it for sale at cost over this blog to anyone who would like to view it.
I would encourage anyone with any ideas to make a documentary film about their passions to go for it and take the risk. Ultimately my personal bottom line was affected less than 10K USD by the making of this film. But my personal self respect for finishing a difficult project went way up and I am satisfied with what I have done.
I am right now working with some friends on the production of another film, although this one will not be political in any way.
I am interested in making a drama or a comedy this time. Lets face it, there is nothing funny or entertaining about a documentary on the Belarusian Election and Alexander Lukashenka made by yours truly. 500 VOICES is DEFINETLY NOT a first date movie. If you play this movie on a first date you are GUARANTEED to get "no love". LOL
So, there are other works in the fire, and maybe my next picture will have fewer failures than the first, and maybe, just maybe it will be ENTERTAINING instead of intensely informative.
Michael Miller
Indianapolis
February, 2007
Saturday, February 3, 2007
A PLASTER FOR 10,000 BROKEN HEARTS
Statistics vary from source to source, but at any given moment there are approximately 10,000 western men in Thailand on any given day.
Some are tourists, some retiree's. Some are on business, some are just on vacation.
A large portion of these men are Americans. I believe that their behaviors in Thailand should not be considered as "bad" or "wrong" or "perverse" and I also believe that any persecution of these men would only make our country weaker and not stronger.
The behavior of American men in Thailand should be considered as a "barrometer" of our American social condition.
It could be argued that American society is in good condition becuase of the relatively low number of men engaged in some form of sex with prostitutes.
It could also be argued that a giant portion of American men would like to be in Thailand paying for sex with prostitutes and this would clearly signal a large social problem in America.
I believe that regardless of whether you believe the glass is half full, or half empty, there is a situation that needs to be addressed.
Traditionally the U.S. government would address men seeking the services of prostitutes in a punitive and destructive manner. Remember that prostition is a criminal offense in virtually all of America and this criminal offense is dealt with by the courts and the police. I believe a more creative and cleaver approach is warranted at this point in our countries history.
Men that have traveled to Thailand with sexual tourism even in their possible travel itenerary are suffering from lonliness and often from broken hearts at home.
You can't cure a broken heart with a bloody nose.
Men that are in Thailand in consort with a prostitute often feel distanced from their country or from their cohort groups at home.
If a man finds himself in Thailand without friends or family, he will be lonely and vulnerable. It is natural at this point for him to seek comfort in others, and "others" often means "hookers".
There are many different phases a mainstream tourist to Thailand or a novice sex tourist must go through before finally becoming a "dyed in the wool sex tourist" .
I believe many American men who go to Thailand ultimately have some form of encounter with a prostitute and that the novelty of this type of sexual encounter quickly wares off.
But the problem is, what is the man to do with his time and his emotions after the initial "thrill" of sex with a prostitute is gone?
Not every man that goes to Thailand is an amateur social scientist and a novice journalist like yours truly. Some men are caught up in the process and never even understand that there is a "process" that they are caught up in.
I believe that the U.S. government should sponsor a low cost restaurant and social club for male American tourists only. No French, No Thais, No Women, No Europeans, just for American male tourists. It could be called THE MAIN STREET BAR AND GRILL.
This social club should orchestrate mainstream tourist fjords and trips to non-sexual destinations that are exciting and stimulating and economical.
This club should have a bar, pool tables, comfortable couches, and be staffed by friendly American voulnteers that "have been there".
American men need a place to go in Bangkok that isn't hooker oriented, or expensive. They need to be assisted to come home to America in their minds.
It would also be helpful for these American men if there were internet dating counselors available to help these same men construct singles ads and post their photos on American singles sites for the purpose of finding American girlfriends and wives and helping them to find romance and sex in their own country.
I believe this club should also have a large TV that plays a regular schedule of American Comedy from Seinfeld, to the Simpsons, and also plays American Movies that are comedies.
I think that we as a country can "bring home" a large portion of our men who have made decisions to experiment with the Thai sex scene. We can bring them home to our offshore club in Bangkok , and we can help them to come home in their minds.
I am not advocating large scale counseling for men in Thailand, but I am advocating that if there were a well advertised "club" for American men to go to, many of them would have their experiments in the Thai sex scene greatly shortened.
There needs to be trust on the part of the American male population that this club is not going to be used in some kind of governmental sting, and that their identitites are going to be protected there.
This club should be well advertised around large prostitution zones and it should be proximal to central bangkok so the American tourist could easily find his way there when he is ready.
The staff should be friendly and conversative, possibly including ex-military chaplains that have dealt with the emotional issues faced by men abroad.
I believe that the U.S. government could change the involvement of American men in Thailand in relation to the sex scene by addressing the underlying emotional needs of the typical male tourist in Thailand. IE- the need for security, comfort, love, acceptance, friendship, etc.
Morover, our US Customs and immigration should prominently place placcards around U.S. departure zones notifying American male tourists that there IS an alternative to vice and sin in Thailand, and that he will be welcome there and protected and assisted, not judged.
I envision this to be sort of a cross between a military E-club, covenaant house, and neighborhood bar and grill.
The purpose of this type of club should not be to decrease American involvement with Thai hookers. The involvement of Americans with Thai hookers is a SYMPTOM of our American condition, not the problem itself.
The purpose of this club should be to help Americans in Thailand to remember that their country loves and values them, and that there is a better world waiting for them at home than there is outside Patpong or the Nana, or wherever.
We need to help our men to come home to America, we need to help them fix their lives, and then you will see a giant decrease in American involvement with Thai hookers.
If we Americans take this first important step to apply a plaster to the lonely and broken hearts of our brothers abroad, many other countries will quickly follow our lead and while the Thai flesh trade will never die, at least we will have taken steps to limit our own national emotional caries that make some of our men its customers.
In my opinion it doesn't matter that tonight 3,000 American men are spending their money and time with hookers in Thailand.
It does matter that these same men are salvageable and viable and they should be spending their money and physical energy building lives and love with American women here at home.
Lets not worry about stopping the "Sin" in Thailand. The "sin" in Thailand is really no big deal.
Lets worry about stopping the "Sinful waste" of our fellow American men not loving our fellow American women. Because that is the "real sin".
Michael Miller
Indianapolis,
February, 2007
Some are tourists, some retiree's. Some are on business, some are just on vacation.
A large portion of these men are Americans. I believe that their behaviors in Thailand should not be considered as "bad" or "wrong" or "perverse" and I also believe that any persecution of these men would only make our country weaker and not stronger.
The behavior of American men in Thailand should be considered as a "barrometer" of our American social condition.
It could be argued that American society is in good condition becuase of the relatively low number of men engaged in some form of sex with prostitutes.
It could also be argued that a giant portion of American men would like to be in Thailand paying for sex with prostitutes and this would clearly signal a large social problem in America.
I believe that regardless of whether you believe the glass is half full, or half empty, there is a situation that needs to be addressed.
Traditionally the U.S. government would address men seeking the services of prostitutes in a punitive and destructive manner. Remember that prostition is a criminal offense in virtually all of America and this criminal offense is dealt with by the courts and the police. I believe a more creative and cleaver approach is warranted at this point in our countries history.
Men that have traveled to Thailand with sexual tourism even in their possible travel itenerary are suffering from lonliness and often from broken hearts at home.
You can't cure a broken heart with a bloody nose.
Men that are in Thailand in consort with a prostitute often feel distanced from their country or from their cohort groups at home.
If a man finds himself in Thailand without friends or family, he will be lonely and vulnerable. It is natural at this point for him to seek comfort in others, and "others" often means "hookers".
There are many different phases a mainstream tourist to Thailand or a novice sex tourist must go through before finally becoming a "dyed in the wool sex tourist" .
I believe many American men who go to Thailand ultimately have some form of encounter with a prostitute and that the novelty of this type of sexual encounter quickly wares off.
But the problem is, what is the man to do with his time and his emotions after the initial "thrill" of sex with a prostitute is gone?
Not every man that goes to Thailand is an amateur social scientist and a novice journalist like yours truly. Some men are caught up in the process and never even understand that there is a "process" that they are caught up in.
I believe that the U.S. government should sponsor a low cost restaurant and social club for male American tourists only. No French, No Thais, No Women, No Europeans, just for American male tourists. It could be called THE MAIN STREET BAR AND GRILL.
This social club should orchestrate mainstream tourist fjords and trips to non-sexual destinations that are exciting and stimulating and economical.
This club should have a bar, pool tables, comfortable couches, and be staffed by friendly American voulnteers that "have been there".
American men need a place to go in Bangkok that isn't hooker oriented, or expensive. They need to be assisted to come home to America in their minds.
It would also be helpful for these American men if there were internet dating counselors available to help these same men construct singles ads and post their photos on American singles sites for the purpose of finding American girlfriends and wives and helping them to find romance and sex in their own country.
I believe this club should also have a large TV that plays a regular schedule of American Comedy from Seinfeld, to the Simpsons, and also plays American Movies that are comedies.
I think that we as a country can "bring home" a large portion of our men who have made decisions to experiment with the Thai sex scene. We can bring them home to our offshore club in Bangkok , and we can help them to come home in their minds.
I am not advocating large scale counseling for men in Thailand, but I am advocating that if there were a well advertised "club" for American men to go to, many of them would have their experiments in the Thai sex scene greatly shortened.
There needs to be trust on the part of the American male population that this club is not going to be used in some kind of governmental sting, and that their identitites are going to be protected there.
This club should be well advertised around large prostitution zones and it should be proximal to central bangkok so the American tourist could easily find his way there when he is ready.
The staff should be friendly and conversative, possibly including ex-military chaplains that have dealt with the emotional issues faced by men abroad.
I believe that the U.S. government could change the involvement of American men in Thailand in relation to the sex scene by addressing the underlying emotional needs of the typical male tourist in Thailand. IE- the need for security, comfort, love, acceptance, friendship, etc.
Morover, our US Customs and immigration should prominently place placcards around U.S. departure zones notifying American male tourists that there IS an alternative to vice and sin in Thailand, and that he will be welcome there and protected and assisted, not judged.
I envision this to be sort of a cross between a military E-club, covenaant house, and neighborhood bar and grill.
The purpose of this type of club should not be to decrease American involvement with Thai hookers. The involvement of Americans with Thai hookers is a SYMPTOM of our American condition, not the problem itself.
The purpose of this club should be to help Americans in Thailand to remember that their country loves and values them, and that there is a better world waiting for them at home than there is outside Patpong or the Nana, or wherever.
We need to help our men to come home to America, we need to help them fix their lives, and then you will see a giant decrease in American involvement with Thai hookers.
If we Americans take this first important step to apply a plaster to the lonely and broken hearts of our brothers abroad, many other countries will quickly follow our lead and while the Thai flesh trade will never die, at least we will have taken steps to limit our own national emotional caries that make some of our men its customers.
In my opinion it doesn't matter that tonight 3,000 American men are spending their money and time with hookers in Thailand.
It does matter that these same men are salvageable and viable and they should be spending their money and physical energy building lives and love with American women here at home.
Lets not worry about stopping the "Sin" in Thailand. The "sin" in Thailand is really no big deal.
Lets worry about stopping the "Sinful waste" of our fellow American men not loving our fellow American women. Because that is the "real sin".
Michael Miller
Indianapolis,
February, 2007
FAMILY VALUES and THE AMERICAN WAY
As a child growing up at the tail end of the cold war, I remember the good guys and the bad guys. I remember right and wrong. As I got older, and learned about the world, I realized that the Russians weren't the devils I was led to believe, and I also learned that we Americans were not always the good guys.
Along the path to becoming more geopolitically aware, I too have lived, loved, and lost. Sometimes my failures in love and romance were my own stupid fault, and sometimes they were the fault of others.
I have been exposed to a catalog of American political views, some I agreed with, and some I did not. I have noted that sometimes our political viewpoints polarize us from one another and sometimes they even obstruct our fondest hearts desires.
Does it really matter whether or not I am a republican, or a democrat or even a communist? Does it matter whether or not I like or dislike guns, whales, or gays?
When I am dead and turned to dust, will it have mattered whether or not I wanted my daughter to date an American black man, or whether I fought my whole life to prevent just this.
Does it really matter whether or not I liked or disliked tacki internet porn? Does it matter whether or not I prayed to Jesus, Budda, Hindi, Mohammad or Abraham? In the end we will all be dust in about 100 years, and only a scant few of us will be remembered even historicly.
I believe what really matters is "how did we live the days of our lives". We Americans are living in a Golden and Magical and Gilded age. What did we do with all of our wealth and privledge?
Did we spitefully hate and avoid those different than us? Did we do nothing but abuse our modern benefits of Jet Travel, Antibiotics, Family Planning Science and Cellular Phones?
What was the BEST thing I have accomplished with all of my wealth and privledge? Cavort with hookers? Eat rich food? Look at internet porn? Lust for fallen women who would only care for my money? Or did I take a different path? I hope I have accomplished more than just vice and food and baubles. I endeavor to maximize my value to the world and limit my sins, but, truth be told, I often fail in this goal.
Imagine what the Sages and great men of history could have done with internet access, or with the power to be transported safely around the world on only a few weeks wages. Would they have wasted these gifts? Would Mark Twain, or Thomas Jefferson have been interested in hookers and cheap shishkabobs? Would their actions with my advantages have made me look spoiled and shallow? I hope that I would not have TOTALLY dissapointed our American icons from Jefferson, to Franklin, to Twain, to Laurel to Hardy, but I am what I am.
What should really be important for any American to do with their advantages is to somehow make the world a better place. Our pursuits should not be simply to feed ourselves, or mate ourselves, as well as we can on our "fiat money" allowances.
American men are not guilty without accmplice in not fully utilizing our gifts and benfits. We have our accomplices and culpable twins. American women are no less guilty for the condition of America, and the shameful waste of our American Dream at the peak of its power.
American women have been socially engeneered to be intellectually frivilous and hollow. For the giant bulk of our countries history we have trained our daughters to be "silly" or "cute" or "dizzy". We have not collectively striven as a population to engeneer our daughters to be geopoliticly perceptive, or to value individual character over glitz and fluff.
We Americans are now stuck in a situation where a giant portion of our female population is "first generation out of the kitchen" AND often frequently in positions of responsibility and power.
We have allowed our America to become a country where two professional level incomes are neccessary to allow a family to live a clean, safe, and fruitful life.
What did we Americans do with the days of our lives? How did we maximize our collective national interests when we were at the apex of our economic and military power? We will never be as rich as we are today. We will never be as powerful as we are today. Our collective hearts and souls will never be as innocent as they are at this moment. What have we decided to do with all of our glory.
Some of us have built quality lives and been industrious. Some of us have choosen to seek out the younger and more beautiful mate at every turn of the corner. Some of us have hurt others for our own gain, never displaying repentence even in our most private and solitary moments. Some of us have been terribly injured, and choose to use these injuries as an excuse to cavort with hookers in Thailand, or to have cheap affairs with men from the office. Very few of us have lead lives of example.
We allow superficial and meaningless political feuds between warring factions to prevent us from finding love and building decent lives.
How many men are there in America that harbor anger towards "feminists" or "modern women" because of real or imagined injuries they have sustained from the same?
How many men hear an intelligent woman speak and because of her views on local or national politics decide that she would be "cold" or a "bitch" or that she would automaticly reject them or somehow purposely steal from them or injure them?
How many women hear a man attempt to articulate a difficult opinion about American race relations, or gun control and suddenly decide after 2 minutes that this man is a "bigot" , a "racist" or an " uncivilized right wing redneck" ? How many women have forgotten that the security to voice their opinions and their ability to safely close their eyes at night is due in no small part to the fact that very many American men have "guns" and would be effective in using them against a foreign occupying force.
How many women ignore the man with only a blue-collar job and believe he is not good enough for them?
In the end we here in America only have each other. We might have feelings for the Thais, or the Belarusians, or the French or any other fancy and colorful nation. But in the end, in the very end, we only have each other.
I propose that American Family Values and the American Way consider the benefits and limitations of what I call "STRANDED POLITICS".
"STRANDED POLITICS" refers to what our interpersonal and sexual politics would be if we were suddenly stranded in the middle of a giant forest with no hope for escape or rescue. If a strange man and woman of reasonable age were to suddenly find themselves stranded in the wilderness, with no rescue possible. How should the man treat the woman? How should the woman treat the man? Does it matter at this point whether or not the woman loved the Clintons, or that the man was a surfer or played with remote control cars? Winter is coming, there are wild animals out there that will eat these two people. How should they treat each other in order to be as happy in the future as possible?
Should the woman not learn to use a firearm? Should the man not coddle and take care of her when she was pregnant with his child? Should the woman help hunt and kill a deer? Should the man not nurture and help care for their baby? Should they not pick and preserve food together? Is "cross training" in the ways of the wilderness not the smartest method to ensure their survival? Should the woman not allow herself to be taken care of and fed when she must stay close to their cabin with their young child? If you take the most rabid and militant American feminist who today professes she does not even like men, in the darkest of cold forest nights would this same woman not respond to the security and love of her forest husband? Would this hard and cold American "era" supporter not also ultimately give the most sincere love in return to her "forest husband and small child"? Would the most unlikely pair not ultimately love and cherrish each other after only a short time in wilderness seclusion?
What functional form would "stranded politics" take when it had evolved between a man and a woman in this environ?
Would the man ultimately beat, rape or hurt his companion? Would he force his strength and size upon her and make her only his submissive prisioner?
Would the woman sabatage and delay the families progress? Would the woman poison and injure their baby? If the man was attacked by a cougar, would the woman watch him being killed without firing a shot? If the mans leg was broken, would the woman not assist him back to the cabin and feed and care for him until his health was mended?
If two strangers would come to love and care for each other in a cold forest in the middle of nowhere, and "stranded politics" were to become the order of the day in making their lives as decent as possible, then why is our modern American political politics such a large factor in deciding whether or not love will bloom or die?
Why should the Bush's or the Clintons need to be a central galactic feature in the minds of Americans looking for love? Why does it matter what church one goes to or how much money one makes when a potential nuclear family can be created?
Why can we Americans not accept each others small differences and understand that in 50 or 100 years, we will all be ashes anyway? What did we do with the days of our lives?
We Americans have been gifted the most bountiful and plentiful country the world has ever known. It seems that most of us can only bicker among ourselves and hide ourselves amongst artificial tribes or cliques.
American men running off to Thailand to have sex with hookers are an embarrassement to America. American women displaying equally lonely or destructive sexual habits at home or abroad are equally embarrassing.
If you are a man you should remember that regardless of how ridiculous and pompus some American women look and act, they are lionhearted in their core. You should not judge the character of 150 million women based upon the words and deeds of a few lonely and sometimes greedy individuals.
If you are an American woman you should remember that regardless of how caddy some mens behavior is ( to include behavior with Thai hookers) they would all proably take a bullet for you in an instant if you were threatened. They would all proably jump into a freezing lake to pull you to the shore, and they would all fire a gun with VERY STEADY hands at a foreign enenmy who threatened you.
Our collective task as Americans should not be to correct or sanction abhorent behavior on the part of male vacationers abroad, or the behavior of women who would embarrass a cosmo editor. Rather our collective national task should be to "socially engeneer" a country where the citizens are so busy loving their husbands or wives that they could no more consider taki or scandalous behavior than they would consider putting their bare foot on a hot coal.
People that are in love don't display stupid behaviors.
We need more people in love here in America.
Michael Miller
Indianapolis,
February, 2007
Along the path to becoming more geopolitically aware, I too have lived, loved, and lost. Sometimes my failures in love and romance were my own stupid fault, and sometimes they were the fault of others.
I have been exposed to a catalog of American political views, some I agreed with, and some I did not. I have noted that sometimes our political viewpoints polarize us from one another and sometimes they even obstruct our fondest hearts desires.
Does it really matter whether or not I am a republican, or a democrat or even a communist? Does it matter whether or not I like or dislike guns, whales, or gays?
When I am dead and turned to dust, will it have mattered whether or not I wanted my daughter to date an American black man, or whether I fought my whole life to prevent just this.
Does it really matter whether or not I liked or disliked tacki internet porn? Does it matter whether or not I prayed to Jesus, Budda, Hindi, Mohammad or Abraham? In the end we will all be dust in about 100 years, and only a scant few of us will be remembered even historicly.
I believe what really matters is "how did we live the days of our lives". We Americans are living in a Golden and Magical and Gilded age. What did we do with all of our wealth and privledge?
Did we spitefully hate and avoid those different than us? Did we do nothing but abuse our modern benefits of Jet Travel, Antibiotics, Family Planning Science and Cellular Phones?
What was the BEST thing I have accomplished with all of my wealth and privledge? Cavort with hookers? Eat rich food? Look at internet porn? Lust for fallen women who would only care for my money? Or did I take a different path? I hope I have accomplished more than just vice and food and baubles. I endeavor to maximize my value to the world and limit my sins, but, truth be told, I often fail in this goal.
Imagine what the Sages and great men of history could have done with internet access, or with the power to be transported safely around the world on only a few weeks wages. Would they have wasted these gifts? Would Mark Twain, or Thomas Jefferson have been interested in hookers and cheap shishkabobs? Would their actions with my advantages have made me look spoiled and shallow? I hope that I would not have TOTALLY dissapointed our American icons from Jefferson, to Franklin, to Twain, to Laurel to Hardy, but I am what I am.
What should really be important for any American to do with their advantages is to somehow make the world a better place. Our pursuits should not be simply to feed ourselves, or mate ourselves, as well as we can on our "fiat money" allowances.
American men are not guilty without accmplice in not fully utilizing our gifts and benfits. We have our accomplices and culpable twins. American women are no less guilty for the condition of America, and the shameful waste of our American Dream at the peak of its power.
American women have been socially engeneered to be intellectually frivilous and hollow. For the giant bulk of our countries history we have trained our daughters to be "silly" or "cute" or "dizzy". We have not collectively striven as a population to engeneer our daughters to be geopoliticly perceptive, or to value individual character over glitz and fluff.
We Americans are now stuck in a situation where a giant portion of our female population is "first generation out of the kitchen" AND often frequently in positions of responsibility and power.
We have allowed our America to become a country where two professional level incomes are neccessary to allow a family to live a clean, safe, and fruitful life.
What did we Americans do with the days of our lives? How did we maximize our collective national interests when we were at the apex of our economic and military power? We will never be as rich as we are today. We will never be as powerful as we are today. Our collective hearts and souls will never be as innocent as they are at this moment. What have we decided to do with all of our glory.
Some of us have built quality lives and been industrious. Some of us have choosen to seek out the younger and more beautiful mate at every turn of the corner. Some of us have hurt others for our own gain, never displaying repentence even in our most private and solitary moments. Some of us have been terribly injured, and choose to use these injuries as an excuse to cavort with hookers in Thailand, or to have cheap affairs with men from the office. Very few of us have lead lives of example.
We allow superficial and meaningless political feuds between warring factions to prevent us from finding love and building decent lives.
How many men are there in America that harbor anger towards "feminists" or "modern women" because of real or imagined injuries they have sustained from the same?
How many men hear an intelligent woman speak and because of her views on local or national politics decide that she would be "cold" or a "bitch" or that she would automaticly reject them or somehow purposely steal from them or injure them?
How many women hear a man attempt to articulate a difficult opinion about American race relations, or gun control and suddenly decide after 2 minutes that this man is a "bigot" , a "racist" or an " uncivilized right wing redneck" ? How many women have forgotten that the security to voice their opinions and their ability to safely close their eyes at night is due in no small part to the fact that very many American men have "guns" and would be effective in using them against a foreign occupying force.
How many women ignore the man with only a blue-collar job and believe he is not good enough for them?
In the end we here in America only have each other. We might have feelings for the Thais, or the Belarusians, or the French or any other fancy and colorful nation. But in the end, in the very end, we only have each other.
I propose that American Family Values and the American Way consider the benefits and limitations of what I call "STRANDED POLITICS".
"STRANDED POLITICS" refers to what our interpersonal and sexual politics would be if we were suddenly stranded in the middle of a giant forest with no hope for escape or rescue. If a strange man and woman of reasonable age were to suddenly find themselves stranded in the wilderness, with no rescue possible. How should the man treat the woman? How should the woman treat the man? Does it matter at this point whether or not the woman loved the Clintons, or that the man was a surfer or played with remote control cars? Winter is coming, there are wild animals out there that will eat these two people. How should they treat each other in order to be as happy in the future as possible?
Should the woman not learn to use a firearm? Should the man not coddle and take care of her when she was pregnant with his child? Should the woman help hunt and kill a deer? Should the man not nurture and help care for their baby? Should they not pick and preserve food together? Is "cross training" in the ways of the wilderness not the smartest method to ensure their survival? Should the woman not allow herself to be taken care of and fed when she must stay close to their cabin with their young child? If you take the most rabid and militant American feminist who today professes she does not even like men, in the darkest of cold forest nights would this same woman not respond to the security and love of her forest husband? Would this hard and cold American "era" supporter not also ultimately give the most sincere love in return to her "forest husband and small child"? Would the most unlikely pair not ultimately love and cherrish each other after only a short time in wilderness seclusion?
What functional form would "stranded politics" take when it had evolved between a man and a woman in this environ?
Would the man ultimately beat, rape or hurt his companion? Would he force his strength and size upon her and make her only his submissive prisioner?
Would the woman sabatage and delay the families progress? Would the woman poison and injure their baby? If the man was attacked by a cougar, would the woman watch him being killed without firing a shot? If the mans leg was broken, would the woman not assist him back to the cabin and feed and care for him until his health was mended?
If two strangers would come to love and care for each other in a cold forest in the middle of nowhere, and "stranded politics" were to become the order of the day in making their lives as decent as possible, then why is our modern American political politics such a large factor in deciding whether or not love will bloom or die?
Why should the Bush's or the Clintons need to be a central galactic feature in the minds of Americans looking for love? Why does it matter what church one goes to or how much money one makes when a potential nuclear family can be created?
Why can we Americans not accept each others small differences and understand that in 50 or 100 years, we will all be ashes anyway? What did we do with the days of our lives?
We Americans have been gifted the most bountiful and plentiful country the world has ever known. It seems that most of us can only bicker among ourselves and hide ourselves amongst artificial tribes or cliques.
American men running off to Thailand to have sex with hookers are an embarrassement to America. American women displaying equally lonely or destructive sexual habits at home or abroad are equally embarrassing.
If you are a man you should remember that regardless of how ridiculous and pompus some American women look and act, they are lionhearted in their core. You should not judge the character of 150 million women based upon the words and deeds of a few lonely and sometimes greedy individuals.
If you are an American woman you should remember that regardless of how caddy some mens behavior is ( to include behavior with Thai hookers) they would all proably take a bullet for you in an instant if you were threatened. They would all proably jump into a freezing lake to pull you to the shore, and they would all fire a gun with VERY STEADY hands at a foreign enenmy who threatened you.
Our collective task as Americans should not be to correct or sanction abhorent behavior on the part of male vacationers abroad, or the behavior of women who would embarrass a cosmo editor. Rather our collective national task should be to "socially engeneer" a country where the citizens are so busy loving their husbands or wives that they could no more consider taki or scandalous behavior than they would consider putting their bare foot on a hot coal.
People that are in love don't display stupid behaviors.
We need more people in love here in America.
Michael Miller
Indianapolis,
February, 2007
AN EMERGENCY TIME OUT FOR THE SUPERBOWL
For decades now the American public has willingly shared their sunday afternoons with the NFL and the SUPERBOWL.
But it seems that now the NFL has threatened American Churches with civil prosecution for holding NFL parties!
I was on my way to work today and noticed a blue and white Santa hat with the Indianapolis Colts emblem displayed on it.
If the Colts (local football team) think it is OK to advertise their team logo on what is clearly an American Christian/Christmas item, then why is it now forbidden for any American Church to hold a "superbowl party" on Superbowl Sunday?
The superbowl exists in its present form because the American public has been willing to "share our Sundays" with the NFL.
But now, the NFL believes that American Churches should not hold "Superbowl Parties"?
Well folks, let me tell you something, I think about as much of the NFL as I do of Church on Sunday, that is to say they are both an equally ridiculous waste of time and money.
However, I do think that I have a sense of fair play, and a decent sense of what represents prudent "social engeneering". I am not sure what kind of society we are engeneering at a Church Superbowl party, but it has got to be better than what kind of world we are engeneering if we allow the NFL to tell us we can't have a church superbowl party.
Our illustrious President, and all of our Govenors and all of our leaders need to go to their nearest church and take part in a "superbowl party" on general principal.
I think it would be better if all of America would just turn off the superbowl, and play cards or go for a walk. But realisticly, as I know the game will be watched on Sunday, it is better to just not only ignore the NFL's warning, but to TAUNT and LAMPOON this warning on all levels possible.
Like I said, I essentially despise football, and church. However, I am so offended at the GREEDY, and SHALLOW, and ARROGANT nature of the NFL for attacking American Church sponsored "superbowl parties" especially "this late in the game" that I am considering putting on some socks and underwear, maybe a belt, maybe even one of my "bought in Bangkok" ties, and going to "church" somewhere and paying attention to whatever minister is speaking. And then signing up for some church activity at whatever random church I land and enjoying the festivities during the superbowl time.
If I have a choice between supporting church on sunday, and the superbowl, can you guess what I will choose.
I realize that church is in the morning, and the kickoff is in the evening, but that isn't the point!
As flawed and ridiculous as it is, an American Church Superbowl party is so much more socially redeeming than the NFL, that it is like comparing what is a better animal, a golden retriever, or a barn rat, and you can guess who is the barn rat in this analogy ?
Michael Miller
Live from Indy,
February 3, 2007
But it seems that now the NFL has threatened American Churches with civil prosecution for holding NFL parties!
I was on my way to work today and noticed a blue and white Santa hat with the Indianapolis Colts emblem displayed on it.
If the Colts (local football team) think it is OK to advertise their team logo on what is clearly an American Christian/Christmas item, then why is it now forbidden for any American Church to hold a "superbowl party" on Superbowl Sunday?
The superbowl exists in its present form because the American public has been willing to "share our Sundays" with the NFL.
But now, the NFL believes that American Churches should not hold "Superbowl Parties"?
Well folks, let me tell you something, I think about as much of the NFL as I do of Church on Sunday, that is to say they are both an equally ridiculous waste of time and money.
However, I do think that I have a sense of fair play, and a decent sense of what represents prudent "social engeneering". I am not sure what kind of society we are engeneering at a Church Superbowl party, but it has got to be better than what kind of world we are engeneering if we allow the NFL to tell us we can't have a church superbowl party.
Our illustrious President, and all of our Govenors and all of our leaders need to go to their nearest church and take part in a "superbowl party" on general principal.
I think it would be better if all of America would just turn off the superbowl, and play cards or go for a walk. But realisticly, as I know the game will be watched on Sunday, it is better to just not only ignore the NFL's warning, but to TAUNT and LAMPOON this warning on all levels possible.
Like I said, I essentially despise football, and church. However, I am so offended at the GREEDY, and SHALLOW, and ARROGANT nature of the NFL for attacking American Church sponsored "superbowl parties" especially "this late in the game" that I am considering putting on some socks and underwear, maybe a belt, maybe even one of my "bought in Bangkok" ties, and going to "church" somewhere and paying attention to whatever minister is speaking. And then signing up for some church activity at whatever random church I land and enjoying the festivities during the superbowl time.
If I have a choice between supporting church on sunday, and the superbowl, can you guess what I will choose.
I realize that church is in the morning, and the kickoff is in the evening, but that isn't the point!
As flawed and ridiculous as it is, an American Church Superbowl party is so much more socially redeeming than the NFL, that it is like comparing what is a better animal, a golden retriever, or a barn rat, and you can guess who is the barn rat in this analogy ?
Michael Miller
Live from Indy,
February 3, 2007
Saturday, January 27, 2007
The Flesh Game
Sex for sale in Thailand comes in many different forms.
At the bottom of the pecking order, you can meet a prostitute known as a freelancer. A freelancer is a woman who sits in a bar, or after hours club, or a mainstream disco such as the Hard Rock Cafe disco trolling for a fare. A freelancer also can be found walking the street looking for a customer. A freelancer has the option of refusing to go with the customer, morover the freelancer is often the aggressor in commencing the sexual business transaction.
You can also go to a common brothel, or a special brothel known as a "soapie" . A soapie is a brothel where the prostitute takes a soapy bath with you before giving you a soapy body massage on an air mattress next to the bathtub, this soapy body massage is followed by sex in a bed in the same room as the bath and body massage. Both brothels and soapies offer the customer the opportunity to pick whichever woman he wants, and the prostitute has little or no control over whether or not she goes with the customer that favors her.
There is also the common and well advertised go-go bar where the girls are dancing around a pole setting which is very similar to an American "strip-joint". The girls in this enviroment are paid a salary of about 225$ per month for dancing every day at the bar for 6-8 hours. The costumes range from bikini bathing suits to topless, to nude. The girls wear numbers so the customers can point them out to the "mama-san" or manager to identify them as being pretty or interesting. After the dance routine is over, the mama-san will direct the girl to sit with the customer at which point the girl will attempt to be charming and make small talk. The customer will be encouraged, and sometimes pressured to buy the girl a lady-drink. This is a 2-3$ glass of coke or juice. The girl will receive a portion of this lady-drink price as a bounus on her check at the end of the month. The go-go girl is under pressure to receive approximately 100 lady drinks per month from male visitors to the Go-go bar. There is an interesting relationship that exists between the go-go bar, and the go-go dancer. The go-go bar makes its money from selling drinks to the customers, to include lady drinks. The go-go bar also makes a small profit from the "barfine" paid for a go-go dancer to leave the bar with a customer. But this is where the relationship stops being intuitively obvious. If a man likes one of the dancers, he will negotiate with her a price for either "long time" which means all night, or "short time" which means up to two hours in his hotel room. The go-go girl will negotiate her price with the customer and she will receive all of the money paid to her for her services. The go-go bar will not receive an override or "cut" of her fee for services. If the customer and go-go girl have agreed on a price, then the customer must pay a fee to the go-go bar called a "barfine". This is a fee intended to compensate the bar for the girls wages for the night she will not complete work. The go-go girl will receive a portion of the bars fee, or barfine in some case as high as 40% of the go-go dancers "barfine" will be added to her check at the end of the month. Some go-go bars require that the go-go dancer "go" with at least 5 male customers per month, and some go-go's do not require the dancers to be barfined or "go" with any minimum number of customers. The go-go girl has a large amount of control over whether or not she leaves the bar with a customer. She can inflate her fee to a ridulous level so her suitor or potential customer will not agree to the transaction . If the mans appearance and demeanor please the girl, she can accordingly lower her fees to a level which promotes the sale beyond the normal fee. There appears to be a small amount of pressure on the girls to go with customers, however the girls are not forced to leave with a man if they do not want to go. The relationship between go-go girl and go-go bar is similar to the relationship that an American hairdresser has with the beauty parlor. The go-go girl has applied to work at the go-go bar for the purpose of being well viewed by the male public. She desires to be well viewed because in doing so she can more easily obtain the highest grade and most desireable of the male clientele available. The go-go bar needs and wants many beautiful girls to be dancing to attract male customers to buy overpriced standard and lady drinks. In the beginning of the evening, the go-go bar is not enthusiastic about the girls being "barfined" because their abscence decreases the amount of overpriced drinks that may be sold. However, later in the evening when drink sales are going to be predictably lower, the go-go bar is interested in seeing the dancers "barfined" because the bar will then recoup approximately 150% of the girls daily salary in the form of a "barfine" from the customer.
The girls involved in this flesh trade are in themselves a large population group. Some of the girls are kind and good hearted. Some of them are cold and unfeeling. Some of them have backrounds of acute trajedy and emergency financial need, and some of them simply do not wish to accumulate assets in a slower fashion that would be possible from a mainsteam job. Some of these girls are very pretty, and some very ugly. Most are only poorly educated, and most of them come from rural backrounds where little opportunity for making money or getting ahead is possible. Most of the girls come from a world where women are not given the same social status and power that women in western industrialized countries enjoy. Many are divorced, have dependent children, or dependent families that rely on the money they earn to make ends meet. The life of a Pattaya prostitute is not entirely sad, or desperate, but it is clearly not the life I would choose for my own daughter if I had one. However, there are obviously good parts to any job, and advantages and disadvantages to any life choice. Virtually all of the prostitutes in Pattaya are very conscious of safe sex practices, and have been very well trained in the use of condoms during sexual acts.
The male customers in the Thai Flesh trade are a large and diverse group.
Many different countries are represented, and many walks of life abound.
It would be inaccurate to say that the male/western customers of Pattaya prostitutes are only interested in sex. This is a large population group of western men and while some are clearly interested in only sex, it is obvious that many are also looking for love, or like, and general companionship. The term GFE is commonly used in western parlance when discussing the sex scene here. GFE means "girl friend experience". "GFE" is most often used to describe a multi day "romantic" experience where a male customer contracts with a favorite prostitute to stay with him for several or many days for the purpose of sex, compaionship, and to enjoy the mainstream tourist attractions that Thailand offers in abbundance.
The male customers of prostitutes include sexual feinds who are so usuary and offensive when discussing the local women, that this writer found it hard to not get into a verbal argument with one of the because of his vulgar and tasteless references and attitudes.
You must understand that I am very open minded and to offend me you have to be pretty over the top.
Well, sadly, I have met this man in Thailand, he was mid 50's, well established financially, and had a crass manner of referencing and discussing his desire for "anal virgins". This means that he was constantly looking for prostitutes that had not yet engaged in anal sex. He was proud that when offererd enough money, most prostitutes would succomb and agree to anal sex with him. I found this man to be creepy and vial. I was almost instantly angered by his attitudes. His lifelong pursuits include nothing more than sexual encounters with prostitutes. As I said, this individual was sad, creepy, and distressing. I only met him for about an hour and a half. I did not learn his life story, I did not have the opportunity to find out if there was anything redeeming or kind about him. I remember him harshly. Perhaps I am wrong, perhaps this man has qualities that will keep him out of hell someday, but I didn't see them.
You have now heard about the absolute worst westerner I have met while in country. While I make no excuses for a mans lifestyle or personal choices, rest assured that most westerners are essentially good and decent, or at least not as bad as the first fellow I told you about.
Western men have many reasons for sex with prostitutes. Perhaps the most obvious reason is "biological need" or horniness. It is normal that a man would want sex with a woman, and when given an opportunity to have sex with a "pretty woman" most men would acknowledge the fact that their mind responds to the physical markers of health and beauty displayed by many Pattaya prostitutes.
However, physical need does not account for all or even most of the sex trade here.
Before you read further, you must understand something about Thailand itself.
Thailand is proably the worlds finest tourist destination. It is economical, beautiful, exotic, the people are friendly, what can I say, Thailand is great! Sure there are problems here, but pound for pound and dollar for dollar Thailand is crammed full of mainstream travel conveniences and attractions.
There is an interesting relationship between the Thai Flesh trade and the rest of the tourist industry. Each one promotes the other. It is proably correct to say that Thailands current state of tourist industry would not exist in its present form if it not for its prostitution industry. However, it is also very true that the prostitution industry would not survive two seconds without the mainstream tourist attractions orbiting around it. Whether or not you believe me, it is true that Thailands tourist industry is totally interdependent on its Flesh trade. Thailands economy is largely and some say totally supported by tourism, so obviouly the welfare of the country is partially dependent on the continued flesh trade. I am not trying to approve this industry, only to put it into perspective for you.
So now you understand that Thailand is a great tourist destination with a thriving sex industry.
Only NOW you can begin to understand the men who come here and WHY.
I have come to Thailand 3 or 4 times now, and I have a quick and dirty rule to explain western behavior here. (if a man comes all the way to thailand for the purpose of sex with prostitutes, there is proably something very wrong with his personality, or his life in general. AND if a single and unattached man finds himself in thailand for any signifigant length of time and doesn't at some point forget himself with one of the local prostitutes, then there is proably something wrong with his personality and his life in general) Whether you agree or disagree with this thought is up to you, but now you have a quick and dirty rule about thailand.
You should also remember the time differences between Thailand and American Eastern Standard Time. When anyone from the East Coast of America arrives in Thailand at 1050pm or thereabouts, his body's internal clock is set to American Eastern Standard time, which is exactly 12 hours opposite Thai time. This means that at 10pm Thai time, an Americans body thinks it is 10am in Boston, or New York. Obviously this tourist can not sleep, and there are only limited mainstream tourist attractions open in Bangkok at this time. This means that your tourist friend from Boston, or Baltimore will likely find himself in venues that are proably not family oriented to say the least, and when a man finds himself in these types of questionable situations, he is more likely to engage in the activities offered.
What kind of man has used the services of a Thai prostitute? Well we have already discussed the worst, so lets look at others and examine their situations.
There is Alex, a man from Maryland whose wife is not sexually interested in him anymore. Alex is late 40's and is about 5'7" tall and weighs about 204lbs. Alex is friendly and decently mannered. He has a high school education, and earns about 55K usd per year. Alex is in Thailand because he is sexually frusterated with his wife, and does't know how to find sex in America within his present marriage situation. Alex's wife understands his need for sex and cosents for him to come to Thailand for the purpose of sex with prostitutes.
Klaus is a 54 year old swiss airline steward in Thailand for his vacation. He is physically presentable, friendly, well spoken, well dressed, and humerous. He enjoys drinking beer and chatting with the local girls in various bars, and sometimes pays one of them for her services. He is divorced and has 2 teenage daughters in Switzerland.
George is a middle aged American executive who is too busy to find a girlfriend in Los Angeles and who has complaints about American women being "too fat" or "too bitchy". George is not happy with the sexual politics on his job in California and believes that American women are all either "fat" or "bitchy". George is divorced, and essentially lives a fast paced life in L.A. He earns about 115K USD per year. George likes to pay Thai prostitutes for sex and is happy when he is in the company of a prostitute. George is not a bad fellow, but he obviously has been emotionally injured in previous relationships and never properly healed from the same. Today he finds comfort in the form of contracted sex with hookers.
Emilio is a low level businessman from Kansas City. He is a slight fellow who speaks both Spanish and English. He is physically presentable, and smiles easily. He is intelligent and honest looking. He earns about 45K usd per year. He is living in Thailand. Emilio would like to have a nice wife someday, and he is not jaded against American women. He is worldly and clever. But he is posted in Thailand on business and he finds occasional recreation in a soapie.
Taylor is a bank manager from Chicago, he earns 75K usd per year and is married with children living in Chicago. He suffers from decreased self esteem resulting from being rejected for sex by his wife. Taylor loves his wife very much, and says she is a good woman. She just constantly rejects him for sex. Taylor is 6'4" tall and has red hair and a red moustache. He is obvioulsy very strong, but is about 50- 60lbs overweight. Taylor works many hours at the bank as a manager and has a part time job on the weekends to make ends meet. Taylor his in Thailand looking for sex to "save his marriage" Obviously Taylor would be happier with more sex from his wife whom he says is beautiful and loving. Taylor feels using the services of Thai hookers is helping him "recharge" or "get caught up" in his sex life. Taylor feels that his hostility for his wife will be decreased if he can simply relieve some sexual tension. Taylor laughs easily and has a college education.
Tom is a mid 30's truck driver from Denver. He came to Thailand several years ago when he won an airline ticket in a company christmas raffle. He says he never had "yellow fever" and never really wanted to come to Thailand in the first place because he thought it would be "dirty" and "nasty". Tom remembers his first experience with a prostitute as an accident. He arrived to town late and went to a go-go bar for entertainment. He says he was shy, but when an "almond eyed beauty" slid up to him and took his hand and looked into his eyes, he could not resist taking her back to his hotel room. Tom now says he likes Thailand and enjoys coming here, but could "care less" about hookers. He says he could "take them or leave them" Tom just enjoys the country of Thailand and says "maybe he will go with more prostitutes, and maybe not."
Lets not forget the "textbook sex tourist" . This is a man who specificly seeks out sexual encounters with prostitutes and feels this "hobby" is normal and dignified. He is known in his circles as a "monger", this is short for whoremonger. This dyed in the wool sex tourist communicates with his fellow "mongers" on organized and highly technical web pages such as Club Hombre and Pattaya Talk . These web sites are designed to facilitate communication between fellow "mongers" about the subjects of where sex tourism is available in the world, and how much various services cost, and what the quality is for the same.
The stories go on and on, stories of broken hearts, low quality lives, sometimes the stories are of happy men who are simply looking for vacation in an exotic land.
It is impossible to catagorize all the western "johns" into one specific box. There is a giant population group of westerners here who are looking to prostitutes for everything form love , to sex, to companionship, for someone to to protect, occasionally someone to oppress and mildly brutalize.
The bulk of the western men here are just simply lost in their own countries, or just lost on vacation.
Often these men begin their association with the Thai Flesh trade looking for sex, but morph their tastes to "looking for Thai culture and sex" then morph again to "looking for a vacation getaway with the possibility of maybe utilizing a prostitutes services". Sometimes a variety and combination of these and other reasons promote a western man to engage in sex with a local prostitite.
Is it right or is it wrong? Is it good for America? Is it good or bad for Thailand? Are the Thai prostitutes victims getting used and abused? Or are they undereducated feminists utilizing their bodies as they see fit?
What is the definition of a prostitute? Is an American prize fighter a prostitute? He clearly abuses his body for money. Is an American woman who desires to only date a "man with money" a prostitute, she will not give her love for free. How many American women have been extra friendly or "flirty" at a bar in America knowing that by doing so she will be offered a "drink" by one of the men at the bar. This same woman knows the fancy drinks at an American bar cost 5-8$ each, and she knows she could never enjoy very many of them at that price, but she can enjoy them if they are paid for by a strange man with whom she has no intentions of knowing on any level. How many American women are interested in what kind of "car" a man drives, or what brand his "shoes" are ? YOU DECIDE if these attitudes are not similar to the attitudes of a prostitute looking for a "john" in a Pattaya go-go bar.
What is the definition of a "customer or John"? Is an American man who purposely displays his wealth in order to attract a mate a "JOHN". He is not satisfied in being judged only for his personality and his physical attributes? What about all the American men who have purchased sports or luxury cars specificly to attract a mate or date? Maybe this man's transportation needs could have been met on the bus, but he finds a need to "flash" his wealth to attract a woman, or to attract the right kind of woman. How many American men have taken their "dates" to expensive restaurants for the purpose of ultimately "getting some" or "finding love" ? How many American men have managed to surpress their "flinch" response to a giant tab at these same restaurants for the purpose of not appearing "poor" to their "dates" ?
What is right and what is wrong? These and many other questions and issues will be addressed in my upcoming essays about the Thai Flesh Trade as it relates to Family Values, and the American way.
*DEAR READERS OR READER, PLEASE NOTE: I HAVE SLIGHTLY ALTERED THE NAMES AND BIGRAPHICAL DATA ON ALL OF THE MEN THAT YOU HAVE READ ABOUT. I DID THIS BECAUSE I DID NOT CONDUCT FORMAL INTERVIEWS WITH ANY OF THEM. I ONLY LISTENED TO THEIR STORIES AND ASKED GOOD QUESTIONS OF THEM. I DO NOT PRACTICE AMBUSH JOURNALISM AT MIKES VACATION. IF A MAN IS KIND ENOUGH TO GRANT ME A FORMAL INTERVIEW, I WILL NOT PUBLISH HIS COMMENTS OUT OF CONTEXT OR WITHOUT HIS PERMISSION. IF A MAN IS NOT AWARE THAT WHILE I AM MAKING FRIENDLY CONVERSATION WITH HIM THAT I AM ALSO GATHERING INFORMATION FOR AN ESSAY, HE WILL NOT BE PUNISHED FOR HAVING HIS GUARD DOWN. ANOTHERWORDS, ALL NAMES AND BIGRAPHICAL DATA THAT YOU JUST READ HAVE BEEN SLIGHTLY ALTERED BY ME TO PREVENT ANY OF THE MEN WHO SPOKE TO ME IN THAILAND FROM BEING SOMEHOW INJURED IN EITHER THEIR PERSONAL OR PROFESSIONAL LIVES.
Michael Miller
Ko Chang, Thailand
January, 2007
At the bottom of the pecking order, you can meet a prostitute known as a freelancer. A freelancer is a woman who sits in a bar, or after hours club, or a mainstream disco such as the Hard Rock Cafe disco trolling for a fare. A freelancer also can be found walking the street looking for a customer. A freelancer has the option of refusing to go with the customer, morover the freelancer is often the aggressor in commencing the sexual business transaction.
You can also go to a common brothel, or a special brothel known as a "soapie" . A soapie is a brothel where the prostitute takes a soapy bath with you before giving you a soapy body massage on an air mattress next to the bathtub, this soapy body massage is followed by sex in a bed in the same room as the bath and body massage. Both brothels and soapies offer the customer the opportunity to pick whichever woman he wants, and the prostitute has little or no control over whether or not she goes with the customer that favors her.
There is also the common and well advertised go-go bar where the girls are dancing around a pole setting which is very similar to an American "strip-joint". The girls in this enviroment are paid a salary of about 225$ per month for dancing every day at the bar for 6-8 hours. The costumes range from bikini bathing suits to topless, to nude. The girls wear numbers so the customers can point them out to the "mama-san" or manager to identify them as being pretty or interesting. After the dance routine is over, the mama-san will direct the girl to sit with the customer at which point the girl will attempt to be charming and make small talk. The customer will be encouraged, and sometimes pressured to buy the girl a lady-drink. This is a 2-3$ glass of coke or juice. The girl will receive a portion of this lady-drink price as a bounus on her check at the end of the month. The go-go girl is under pressure to receive approximately 100 lady drinks per month from male visitors to the Go-go bar. There is an interesting relationship that exists between the go-go bar, and the go-go dancer. The go-go bar makes its money from selling drinks to the customers, to include lady drinks. The go-go bar also makes a small profit from the "barfine" paid for a go-go dancer to leave the bar with a customer. But this is where the relationship stops being intuitively obvious. If a man likes one of the dancers, he will negotiate with her a price for either "long time" which means all night, or "short time" which means up to two hours in his hotel room. The go-go girl will negotiate her price with the customer and she will receive all of the money paid to her for her services. The go-go bar will not receive an override or "cut" of her fee for services. If the customer and go-go girl have agreed on a price, then the customer must pay a fee to the go-go bar called a "barfine". This is a fee intended to compensate the bar for the girls wages for the night she will not complete work. The go-go girl will receive a portion of the bars fee, or barfine in some case as high as 40% of the go-go dancers "barfine" will be added to her check at the end of the month. Some go-go bars require that the go-go dancer "go" with at least 5 male customers per month, and some go-go's do not require the dancers to be barfined or "go" with any minimum number of customers. The go-go girl has a large amount of control over whether or not she leaves the bar with a customer. She can inflate her fee to a ridulous level so her suitor or potential customer will not agree to the transaction . If the mans appearance and demeanor please the girl, she can accordingly lower her fees to a level which promotes the sale beyond the normal fee. There appears to be a small amount of pressure on the girls to go with customers, however the girls are not forced to leave with a man if they do not want to go. The relationship between go-go girl and go-go bar is similar to the relationship that an American hairdresser has with the beauty parlor. The go-go girl has applied to work at the go-go bar for the purpose of being well viewed by the male public. She desires to be well viewed because in doing so she can more easily obtain the highest grade and most desireable of the male clientele available. The go-go bar needs and wants many beautiful girls to be dancing to attract male customers to buy overpriced standard and lady drinks. In the beginning of the evening, the go-go bar is not enthusiastic about the girls being "barfined" because their abscence decreases the amount of overpriced drinks that may be sold. However, later in the evening when drink sales are going to be predictably lower, the go-go bar is interested in seeing the dancers "barfined" because the bar will then recoup approximately 150% of the girls daily salary in the form of a "barfine" from the customer.
The girls involved in this flesh trade are in themselves a large population group. Some of the girls are kind and good hearted. Some of them are cold and unfeeling. Some of them have backrounds of acute trajedy and emergency financial need, and some of them simply do not wish to accumulate assets in a slower fashion that would be possible from a mainsteam job. Some of these girls are very pretty, and some very ugly. Most are only poorly educated, and most of them come from rural backrounds where little opportunity for making money or getting ahead is possible. Most of the girls come from a world where women are not given the same social status and power that women in western industrialized countries enjoy. Many are divorced, have dependent children, or dependent families that rely on the money they earn to make ends meet. The life of a Pattaya prostitute is not entirely sad, or desperate, but it is clearly not the life I would choose for my own daughter if I had one. However, there are obviously good parts to any job, and advantages and disadvantages to any life choice. Virtually all of the prostitutes in Pattaya are very conscious of safe sex practices, and have been very well trained in the use of condoms during sexual acts.
The male customers in the Thai Flesh trade are a large and diverse group.
Many different countries are represented, and many walks of life abound.
It would be inaccurate to say that the male/western customers of Pattaya prostitutes are only interested in sex. This is a large population group of western men and while some are clearly interested in only sex, it is obvious that many are also looking for love, or like, and general companionship. The term GFE is commonly used in western parlance when discussing the sex scene here. GFE means "girl friend experience". "GFE" is most often used to describe a multi day "romantic" experience where a male customer contracts with a favorite prostitute to stay with him for several or many days for the purpose of sex, compaionship, and to enjoy the mainstream tourist attractions that Thailand offers in abbundance.
The male customers of prostitutes include sexual feinds who are so usuary and offensive when discussing the local women, that this writer found it hard to not get into a verbal argument with one of the because of his vulgar and tasteless references and attitudes.
You must understand that I am very open minded and to offend me you have to be pretty over the top.
Well, sadly, I have met this man in Thailand, he was mid 50's, well established financially, and had a crass manner of referencing and discussing his desire for "anal virgins". This means that he was constantly looking for prostitutes that had not yet engaged in anal sex. He was proud that when offererd enough money, most prostitutes would succomb and agree to anal sex with him. I found this man to be creepy and vial. I was almost instantly angered by his attitudes. His lifelong pursuits include nothing more than sexual encounters with prostitutes. As I said, this individual was sad, creepy, and distressing. I only met him for about an hour and a half. I did not learn his life story, I did not have the opportunity to find out if there was anything redeeming or kind about him. I remember him harshly. Perhaps I am wrong, perhaps this man has qualities that will keep him out of hell someday, but I didn't see them.
You have now heard about the absolute worst westerner I have met while in country. While I make no excuses for a mans lifestyle or personal choices, rest assured that most westerners are essentially good and decent, or at least not as bad as the first fellow I told you about.
Western men have many reasons for sex with prostitutes. Perhaps the most obvious reason is "biological need" or horniness. It is normal that a man would want sex with a woman, and when given an opportunity to have sex with a "pretty woman" most men would acknowledge the fact that their mind responds to the physical markers of health and beauty displayed by many Pattaya prostitutes.
However, physical need does not account for all or even most of the sex trade here.
Before you read further, you must understand something about Thailand itself.
Thailand is proably the worlds finest tourist destination. It is economical, beautiful, exotic, the people are friendly, what can I say, Thailand is great! Sure there are problems here, but pound for pound and dollar for dollar Thailand is crammed full of mainstream travel conveniences and attractions.
There is an interesting relationship between the Thai Flesh trade and the rest of the tourist industry. Each one promotes the other. It is proably correct to say that Thailands current state of tourist industry would not exist in its present form if it not for its prostitution industry. However, it is also very true that the prostitution industry would not survive two seconds without the mainstream tourist attractions orbiting around it. Whether or not you believe me, it is true that Thailands tourist industry is totally interdependent on its Flesh trade. Thailands economy is largely and some say totally supported by tourism, so obviouly the welfare of the country is partially dependent on the continued flesh trade. I am not trying to approve this industry, only to put it into perspective for you.
So now you understand that Thailand is a great tourist destination with a thriving sex industry.
Only NOW you can begin to understand the men who come here and WHY.
I have come to Thailand 3 or 4 times now, and I have a quick and dirty rule to explain western behavior here. (if a man comes all the way to thailand for the purpose of sex with prostitutes, there is proably something very wrong with his personality, or his life in general. AND if a single and unattached man finds himself in thailand for any signifigant length of time and doesn't at some point forget himself with one of the local prostitutes, then there is proably something wrong with his personality and his life in general) Whether you agree or disagree with this thought is up to you, but now you have a quick and dirty rule about thailand.
You should also remember the time differences between Thailand and American Eastern Standard Time. When anyone from the East Coast of America arrives in Thailand at 1050pm or thereabouts, his body's internal clock is set to American Eastern Standard time, which is exactly 12 hours opposite Thai time. This means that at 10pm Thai time, an Americans body thinks it is 10am in Boston, or New York. Obviously this tourist can not sleep, and there are only limited mainstream tourist attractions open in Bangkok at this time. This means that your tourist friend from Boston, or Baltimore will likely find himself in venues that are proably not family oriented to say the least, and when a man finds himself in these types of questionable situations, he is more likely to engage in the activities offered.
What kind of man has used the services of a Thai prostitute? Well we have already discussed the worst, so lets look at others and examine their situations.
There is Alex, a man from Maryland whose wife is not sexually interested in him anymore. Alex is late 40's and is about 5'7" tall and weighs about 204lbs. Alex is friendly and decently mannered. He has a high school education, and earns about 55K usd per year. Alex is in Thailand because he is sexually frusterated with his wife, and does't know how to find sex in America within his present marriage situation. Alex's wife understands his need for sex and cosents for him to come to Thailand for the purpose of sex with prostitutes.
Klaus is a 54 year old swiss airline steward in Thailand for his vacation. He is physically presentable, friendly, well spoken, well dressed, and humerous. He enjoys drinking beer and chatting with the local girls in various bars, and sometimes pays one of them for her services. He is divorced and has 2 teenage daughters in Switzerland.
George is a middle aged American executive who is too busy to find a girlfriend in Los Angeles and who has complaints about American women being "too fat" or "too bitchy". George is not happy with the sexual politics on his job in California and believes that American women are all either "fat" or "bitchy". George is divorced, and essentially lives a fast paced life in L.A. He earns about 115K USD per year. George likes to pay Thai prostitutes for sex and is happy when he is in the company of a prostitute. George is not a bad fellow, but he obviously has been emotionally injured in previous relationships and never properly healed from the same. Today he finds comfort in the form of contracted sex with hookers.
Emilio is a low level businessman from Kansas City. He is a slight fellow who speaks both Spanish and English. He is physically presentable, and smiles easily. He is intelligent and honest looking. He earns about 45K usd per year. He is living in Thailand. Emilio would like to have a nice wife someday, and he is not jaded against American women. He is worldly and clever. But he is posted in Thailand on business and he finds occasional recreation in a soapie.
Taylor is a bank manager from Chicago, he earns 75K usd per year and is married with children living in Chicago. He suffers from decreased self esteem resulting from being rejected for sex by his wife. Taylor loves his wife very much, and says she is a good woman. She just constantly rejects him for sex. Taylor is 6'4" tall and has red hair and a red moustache. He is obvioulsy very strong, but is about 50- 60lbs overweight. Taylor works many hours at the bank as a manager and has a part time job on the weekends to make ends meet. Taylor his in Thailand looking for sex to "save his marriage" Obviously Taylor would be happier with more sex from his wife whom he says is beautiful and loving. Taylor feels using the services of Thai hookers is helping him "recharge" or "get caught up" in his sex life. Taylor feels that his hostility for his wife will be decreased if he can simply relieve some sexual tension. Taylor laughs easily and has a college education.
Tom is a mid 30's truck driver from Denver. He came to Thailand several years ago when he won an airline ticket in a company christmas raffle. He says he never had "yellow fever" and never really wanted to come to Thailand in the first place because he thought it would be "dirty" and "nasty". Tom remembers his first experience with a prostitute as an accident. He arrived to town late and went to a go-go bar for entertainment. He says he was shy, but when an "almond eyed beauty" slid up to him and took his hand and looked into his eyes, he could not resist taking her back to his hotel room. Tom now says he likes Thailand and enjoys coming here, but could "care less" about hookers. He says he could "take them or leave them" Tom just enjoys the country of Thailand and says "maybe he will go with more prostitutes, and maybe not."
Lets not forget the "textbook sex tourist" . This is a man who specificly seeks out sexual encounters with prostitutes and feels this "hobby" is normal and dignified. He is known in his circles as a "monger", this is short for whoremonger. This dyed in the wool sex tourist communicates with his fellow "mongers" on organized and highly technical web pages such as Club Hombre and Pattaya Talk . These web sites are designed to facilitate communication between fellow "mongers" about the subjects of where sex tourism is available in the world, and how much various services cost, and what the quality is for the same.
The stories go on and on, stories of broken hearts, low quality lives, sometimes the stories are of happy men who are simply looking for vacation in an exotic land.
It is impossible to catagorize all the western "johns" into one specific box. There is a giant population group of westerners here who are looking to prostitutes for everything form love , to sex, to companionship, for someone to to protect, occasionally someone to oppress and mildly brutalize.
The bulk of the western men here are just simply lost in their own countries, or just lost on vacation.
Often these men begin their association with the Thai Flesh trade looking for sex, but morph their tastes to "looking for Thai culture and sex" then morph again to "looking for a vacation getaway with the possibility of maybe utilizing a prostitutes services". Sometimes a variety and combination of these and other reasons promote a western man to engage in sex with a local prostitite.
Is it right or is it wrong? Is it good for America? Is it good or bad for Thailand? Are the Thai prostitutes victims getting used and abused? Or are they undereducated feminists utilizing their bodies as they see fit?
What is the definition of a prostitute? Is an American prize fighter a prostitute? He clearly abuses his body for money. Is an American woman who desires to only date a "man with money" a prostitute, she will not give her love for free. How many American women have been extra friendly or "flirty" at a bar in America knowing that by doing so she will be offered a "drink" by one of the men at the bar. This same woman knows the fancy drinks at an American bar cost 5-8$ each, and she knows she could never enjoy very many of them at that price, but she can enjoy them if they are paid for by a strange man with whom she has no intentions of knowing on any level. How many American women are interested in what kind of "car" a man drives, or what brand his "shoes" are ? YOU DECIDE if these attitudes are not similar to the attitudes of a prostitute looking for a "john" in a Pattaya go-go bar.
What is the definition of a "customer or John"? Is an American man who purposely displays his wealth in order to attract a mate a "JOHN". He is not satisfied in being judged only for his personality and his physical attributes? What about all the American men who have purchased sports or luxury cars specificly to attract a mate or date? Maybe this man's transportation needs could have been met on the bus, but he finds a need to "flash" his wealth to attract a woman, or to attract the right kind of woman. How many American men have taken their "dates" to expensive restaurants for the purpose of ultimately "getting some" or "finding love" ? How many American men have managed to surpress their "flinch" response to a giant tab at these same restaurants for the purpose of not appearing "poor" to their "dates" ?
What is right and what is wrong? These and many other questions and issues will be addressed in my upcoming essays about the Thai Flesh Trade as it relates to Family Values, and the American way.
*DEAR READERS OR READER, PLEASE NOTE: I HAVE SLIGHTLY ALTERED THE NAMES AND BIGRAPHICAL DATA ON ALL OF THE MEN THAT YOU HAVE READ ABOUT. I DID THIS BECAUSE I DID NOT CONDUCT FORMAL INTERVIEWS WITH ANY OF THEM. I ONLY LISTENED TO THEIR STORIES AND ASKED GOOD QUESTIONS OF THEM. I DO NOT PRACTICE AMBUSH JOURNALISM AT MIKES VACATION. IF A MAN IS KIND ENOUGH TO GRANT ME A FORMAL INTERVIEW, I WILL NOT PUBLISH HIS COMMENTS OUT OF CONTEXT OR WITHOUT HIS PERMISSION. IF A MAN IS NOT AWARE THAT WHILE I AM MAKING FRIENDLY CONVERSATION WITH HIM THAT I AM ALSO GATHERING INFORMATION FOR AN ESSAY, HE WILL NOT BE PUNISHED FOR HAVING HIS GUARD DOWN. ANOTHERWORDS, ALL NAMES AND BIGRAPHICAL DATA THAT YOU JUST READ HAVE BEEN SLIGHTLY ALTERED BY ME TO PREVENT ANY OF THE MEN WHO SPOKE TO ME IN THAILAND FROM BEING SOMEHOW INJURED IN EITHER THEIR PERSONAL OR PROFESSIONAL LIVES.
Michael Miller
Ko Chang, Thailand
January, 2007
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